My husband and I are expecting our first baby. This brings to mind a million and one questions. “Am I ready for this?” “Should I be somewhere else at this point in my life, in my career?” “Have I done enough, do we have enough, can we afford this?”
I have been left to ponder what really matters in this life. I complain because if we were here I could do this or that… theoretically. I could stay home with the baby, I could have a nanny, yada yada… but let’s be real. We don’t all end up with all the riches in the world. Does riches really make things better? What are real riches anyway?
They say that prosperity favors the bold. Would you not agree with me that being bold is about the choices we make everyday. Would it not be bold to live fearlessly as we are now not accepting circumstance downcast but loving who we are, loving what we can offer the world through our own confidence and boldness.
Someone told me, you know what’s amazing about babies, they are happy in a big house, small house, red chair or blue chair. They don’t care. What they need is love and attention. That I have. That I can give with all I am.
Does stuff really make life better? Maybe it will temporarily fill the void but what really makes life matter is who is in it. What makes life better is what you experience, the story written page by page. To be bold is to not fear the “harder” times. To be bold is to love at ALL times no matter whether you think your life should be different or not. Love changes things. True love changes you. It is contagious. It gives you purpose.
Children need to know that things, money and stuff don’t make life worth it. They are great tools and resources. However, what matters most is the life you live, the story written, the chances you take, the people you love and the people who love you.
35 And I have been a constant example of how you can help those in need by working hard. You should remember the words of the Lord Jesus: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”
We’ve all asked the question at some point in our lives, “why am I here on this earth? Why do I even exist.” This life is a journey we all take. We are all born and we will all die. Our story has a beginning and end. But, what about the middle pages, what about the rest of the story? Why are we here?
We all search for love, acceptance… we all want to be seen, to be known.. to be loved by someone.
Today 1 in 4 adults say they have no one to talk to….(more facts)
Life is a journey we all travel, a road we all cross. What we do with the middle of the book is what makes it really count. What if we were to do something that really mattered. What if we were to change the world we live in everyday. What if we made the world into the world we want by caring more about others than ourselves. What if we actually made our lives “One Big Give”
We all want to be noticed and loved and many of us wait for that day to come. What if we flip the switch on that and be the ones to offer love. What if we actually treated others how we want to be treated. How would this world look? How would we look? How would we feel? Would we find purpose and meaning in meaning something to someone else. What if we were to “Lend Love” everyday, to all men, without expecting something in return.
Lend Some Love is just that. It’s being the person we want others to be for us. Why not take the first step? Why not offer love and watch as love continues to go from one person to the next.
Being kind is a choice, one we are all faced with everyday. It starts at the grocery store by simply putting your cart where it belongs. On the phone with a customer service rep and treating them like a friend instead of being rude. It’s doing the right thing by standing up for someone being bullied. Lending love is simply being the person you’ve always wanted someone else to be for you. Try it, and watch what will happen around you. Pure love cannot help but be contagious.
All my life, I’ve been that different kid. You know the “weird” one. I knew this early on… at first it was hard to come to terms. It’s not say I never had any friends or had a horrible up bringing because that just isn’t true. I’ve had an amazing life, thus far. I just knew I wasn’t quite wired the same. When I finally embraced this fact everything changed. For the better that is.
Here’s the thing about life we all want to be loved, to be accepted, to be wanted. And when we aren’t we do what it takes to make that happen. We change who we are, for who we “could be” we trade up for a better version of ourselves. Why do we think it has to be that way. Why should I have to change who I am for you to like me. I have ALWAYS asked this question. Sometimes the need to be loved overtakes the need to be heard. Sometimes we let ourselves fade a little so that we can feel a sense of belonging with a group of people who like “this” version of us.
It’s a tale as old as time. Why is it so easy to judge? To look at someone else’s flaws and feel ok to point them out. Why is it so hard to love, regardless of education, background, race, religion, hair color, body shape… you name it. FEAR. We are all afraid, of ourselves, of our future, of being less than someone else. It’s silly. Fear cripples you, it makes you triple check the lock, check behind the shower curtain, look in the mirror for the TENTH time. Fear stops you.
Why are some of us more “brave” than others? Why do some of us change the world? Why do some of us leave a mark in history, while others of us just try to blend in. IF we can realize that WEIRD is just a viewpoint. That different is just a different angle. That love can be for all. If we can step outside of our current situation, our current place, and see the bigger picture. Panoramic… and realize in the end we all really need each other more than we need to make each other “better.” We might not only change ourselves but we might change the world. So like I read on some Instagram post by unknown author, “If you’re going to be weird, be confidant about it.” So go forth in confidence. Ay Ay captain!